Facing challenges?
It’s important to not only look at our biography and life story but also go beyond the behaviours of our family members.
Life stories and personal narratives give context but don’t always reveal the root causes of persistent challenges. By looking "beyond biography," you begin to uncover hidden, unconscious influences that may stem from generational trauma or unresolved family issues.
The theory is our emotions, limitations in life and even our financial and relationship successes are inherited from our parents, our relatives, both dead and alive, and closely linked to our partners.
Such links are largely unconscious. If out of harmony or crises are unaddressed, they unconsciously pull us in a way we suffer.
Example One: A recurring pattern of financial struggle may not be "bad luck" but a loyalty to a family member who experienced loss or scarcity in their time.
Example Two: A mother has a failing marriage. Perhaps her husband has treated her badly for many years and she becomes embittered enough to hate men. The daughter growing up sees this. Through unconscious honour, the daughter can often copy her mother’s bitterness towards men.
Subsequently in adult life, without realising it or even wanting it, the daughter may find herself repeatedly failing in relationships and ending up alone just like her mother.
This example might seem obvious but others aren’t so easy to spot. So how can you fix such influences if you are not conscious of them? This is where the true work begins.
When our ancestors have experienced trauma in their personal lives, including traumatic events in family and social history such as: war, suicide, abandonment, mental illness, early death or other challenging events. These can send shock waves of distress through generations, breaking the flow of love from one generation to the next. It makes it difficult for us to receive the love that we need from our parents when they are fragmented by their own trauma.
Our bodies hold trauma and stress of the past including painful childhood experiences and tragic events that impacted generations before us.
FAQs
How many sessions do I need to understand the origin of my problem?
Transgenerational Healing session takes place in a
single session. Lasts usually for 1h30 to 1h45.
Is Family Constellation the same as a Psychotherapy-Counselling session?
No. Family Constellation is a transgenerational therapeutic approach with roots in family systems therapy. It’s not the same as traditional psychotherapy.
While traditional therapies typically focus only on the client, Constellations work with a whole picture of the individual as part of a larger set of systems – family, community, ethnic group and so on.
It highlights invisible dynamics that often include previous generations or rejected elements. The session works like a laser beam to pinpoint exactly what’s blocking you from being happy, what is stealing your peace and disturbing your joy and well being.
Who Else Benefits from Family Constellations?
Family Constellation has the power to shift generations of suffering and unhappiness, lifting also the burden on our children who are the first to carry destructive familial patterns of depression, guilt, anxiety and even illness. Bonded by deep love, a child will often sacrifice his own best interests in a vain attempt to ease the suffering of a parent or even distant relatives. Transgenerational healing allow us to break these patterns and move forward by clearing away loyalty to pain and unconscious fear of happiness so that we can live healthier and more fulfilled lives.
Is Family constellation connected to Astrology?
No. The German term “Familienaufstellung”, was incorrectly translated by non-German speaking countries. It’s actual translation to English is “family positioning”. It’s used as a psychotherapy diagnostic tool that reveals what is out of position / out of order in the family system and what needs attention.
Who are constellations for?
Constellations are typically used as a diagnostic tool that reveals hidden forces and what needs our attention. You can use constellations to explore:
-Deeply embedded personal issues that seem resistant to change
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- To assist you when you are confronted with difficult choices that can be around personal direction, career or relationship. It can help you with this decision-making process by giving you the unique opportunity to observe representatives actually embodying the choice in question. This can offer insight and shed light on important crossroads in your life.
There are three possible types of outcomes:
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Diagnosing: What are the relevant and hidden forces acting on my difficulty?
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Acknowledging: What is involved in embodying the images shown in the constellation?
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Predicting: What is the likely impact of my choice?
In a moment of insight, a new life course can be set in motion. The results can be life-changing.